After wrapping up my last session of Time for the Talk, one of the mom’s mentioned that she was feeling concerned about how to stay close to her daughter now that the session was ending. Before taking my class, she said she couldn’t even “breathe right” in her daughter’s eyes, but now had earned some “street cred” from their time together and she didn’t want to lose that.
If you’ve taken one of our Time for the Talk programs, either in person or online, you may be wondering the same thing:
How do you maintain the closeness you achieved during the 5 weeks once you return to your regular schedules?
It’s not easy for most of us to find the time to really bond with our kids. We get so busy it can be difficult to really connect. (This is one of the gifts we love most about our program: that it allows families the space and time to be together.)
Once our program is over, both parents and kids can feel a let-down, knowing their special time has ended. The good news is we have some suggestions for how to keep the connection you’ve gained and stay close to your kiddos.
How to stay connected to your child once completing Time for the Talk:
- Maintain weekly “Special Time”. Whether it’s going out to eat, seeing a movie together or going on a hike, schedule time to be together without the distractions of our day-to-day lives. My daughter loves to go on “Dates” with me. We have fun together without our typical mother/daughter roles. It’s time we work hard to schedule and protect and helps reduce tension between us.
- If you have a son, he may not be thrilled with the idea of a “Date Night” with mom or dad. Instead, really make an effort to get involved with his interests. Shoot hoops with him at the park on the weekend, let him show you his latest Minecraft creation. Whatever he’s into, make it a priority to learn about it and share his interests. Schedule time to interact with him in a way that is fun and helps you connect.
- Stay current on things important to your child. Know what they are interested in and talk to them about it. What are their favorite shows, musicians, movies, etc. Also check in with them about what’s going on in their social lives. Are they dealing with any challenges? Your goal is to keep the lines of communication open and let them know that you are still available to them, on all topics.
We’d love to hear from you. How do you create space and time in your busy days to spend quality time with your child? Hop on over to our Facebook page and share your ideas. We can all learn from each other.