A few years ago I was driving in the car with my kids when my daughter, who was 7 at the time, said “Mom, at school today, Jack said that the middle finger is a bad word. Is that true?” My heart sank. I remember thinking, I don’t want her to know about the middle finger yet! Ugh! What do I say now? I was caught off-guard and wanted to hit the “pause” button to think of the perfect answer. Instead, I told a fib. I said, “Huh, that’s weird! I’ve never heard of that before.” My daughter let it go and we went on chatting about something else. The fib was eating at me though. I started thinking about how she would find out that the middle finger does mean a bad word and that she would remember that I had lied (or worse, she might think that I really was out of touch with things and not the person to go to with her questions.) I knew I needed to fix the situation and tell her the truth.
Today’s video will help you understand why it’s so important to share the facts with your child and keep those lines of communication open.
What have your kids asked when you wished there was a “pause” button? How did you handle it? Share your stories in our comments section below and let us know what’s worked for you.